Showing posts with label lies. Show all posts
Showing posts with label lies. Show all posts

Monday, 19 October 2020

Book thoughts: The girl who never came home by Nicole Trope

The blurb: They find her just as the sun is beginning to rise in the early morning mist. They had begun at dawn, the group of searchers keen to get going. A missing child spurred everyone on. In the end, it was a flash of colour, a bright neon pink that caught her eye. They had been looking for pink.

Nothing tests your faith like being a mother. The first time your children walk to school alone, their first sleepover, when they finally fly the nest. As a parent, you have to believe that everything will be OK.

It’s why, when Lydia’s sixteen-year-old daughter Zoe goes on a school camping trip, she has no idea of the horrors that will unfold. It’s why, when Lydia gets a call saying that her daughter has disappeared, she refuses to give up.

As she searches the mountains, her voice hoarse from calling Zoe’s name, she imagines finding her. She envisions being flooded with relief as she throws her arms around her child, saying, ‘you gave us such a scare’. She pictures her precious girl safely tucked in bed that evening.

It’s why, when they find Zoe’s body, Lydia can barely believe it. It is unthinkable. Her little girl has gone.

Something terrible happened, she is sure of it. Something made Zoe get out of her sleeping bag in the middle of the night, walk out of the warmth and safety of the cabin, into the darkness of the mountains. Driven by the memory of her youngest child, Lydia needs to find out the truth. What kind of mother would she be if she didn’t?

My thoughts: This is an intriguing tale, with interesting and complex characters that are believable and easy to relate too. 

Zoe is a beautiful vivacious girl, but she’s also a bully. When she goes away on a school camping trip, no one expects that to be the end, but when Zoe goes missing and is found dead, we are taken on a journey through the thoughts, fears, regrets, secrets and torturous guilt of all those who were there that night as well as those who were closest to her. 

Nicole lays out the story in a very clever way, allowing us to slowly discover the truth through a whole host of characters. 

Hearing their side of things, and seeing them struggle with what has happened, while also wrestling with their own sense of guilt and culpability.

There was not a single character that I felt wasn’t real, wasn’t really grieving or wrestling with their own involvement t or failure to act.

It also deals with some complex issues. In the modern age Bullying has gone beyond the playground, children can no longer escape to the safety of their home and gain a well needed reprieve. The bully’s are now able to follow them everywhere, attacking them night and day, in constant streams of endless abuse, torture and public humiliation, via social media and the internet. 

But that’s not the only danger of the internet, complete strangers can become anyone, and what a young girl believes to be a handsome Boy, could actually be a dirty old man. Children are easy prey and despite parents and teacher best efforts to teach the youth of today, to be careful, to be smart, they often get swept away by kind words, sweet promises and clever deception. 

Faced with all this how can today’s youth survive, do you know who your child is really talking too. 

Nicole deals with this issues beautifully and shows just how easy it is for the internet to play a devastating part in destroying lives.

I was hooked from the first page to the last and would definitely like to read more by this author in the future. 

A big thank you to NetGalley, Nicole Trope and her publisher for allowing me to read and advance copy of this wonderful book, in exchange for an honest review. I have truly loved it. 

Love and hugs all
Joss xx

Wednesday, 1 January 2014

Is honesty always the best policy?

Ever since I was a little girl, I have heard people say, "honesty is the best policy," but, is it really?

How many of us can say that we have never lied. Don't we start lying to our very own children the moment they are old enough to understand Christmas and Santa Claus? After all, there is no big, round, jolly man, who slips down our chimneys, bringing our children gifts if they've been nice. No! It is us, their parents, who purchase and place the brightly wrapped gifts.

How many of us have told a friend they look amazing, when in actual fact, they look a little dodgy or told them they are in the right, when they have had a fight with their partner, even when we've actually felt that they were the one in the wrong and not their partner?

If we follow the rule that honesty is always the best policy, then surely we must confess the truth about Santa to our children and tell our friends that their behaviour is actually down right out of order, regardless of whether or not we will hurt their feelings.

Surely, the truth of the matter then is that honesty is only the best policy sometimes. 

There are obvious times when honesty is best. If you accidentally break something that doesn't belong to you, then you should be honest, as well as offering to pay for the item to be replaced,
if you do something that you know you shouldn't have, if you overspend in your joint bank account, perhaps.

The problems arise when we hit those grey areas, such as when someone you care about is putting other people out but doesn't seem to realise it. 

For instance, if you had a friend who was living with family and had been for several years and you know that the family members ( let's say a married couple with no kids) are making hints that they want there home back, yet your friend has become comfortable there. He/she doesn't understand that those family member might want their space back; that sometimes married couples just need their own space. Do you tell the friend straight out, gently try to hint like their family members are doing, or just say nothing and watch, as your friend gets hurt, as his family slowly starts to leave him out more and more?




What if a friends husband/wife is cheating on them and you become aware of it? Do you tell the friend and risk them becoming angry at you and possibly ending the friendship or is it best to say nothing and just sit back and wait to pick up the pieces when they discover the truth for themselves?

We naturally want to protect the people we care about, but it isn't always easy. So, what do you think? Is honesty always the best policy or is it in fact better to keep your lips sealed and hope for the best?