Tuesday, 20 January 2015

Express yourself meme


For those of you who don't know, Express yourself is a weekly Meme hosted by Dani and Jackie. Each week we get a question to answer and this weeks question is...

What's your favourite movie you saw in 2014?

That's a no brainer, it has to be Divergent. 


I loved the whole series of books and when the film came out I just had to see it. Normally the film is a bit of a disappointment in comparison to the book but I didn't find that to be the case at all with Divergent and would highly recommend it to anyone. 
Plus four/ phew is hot, hot, hot, both imagined and in the film LOL. 
He's also my book and movie boyfriend of choice. 

So what was your fav film of 2014? Do you have book or movie boyfriends? 
Leave a comment and let me know. 

love and hugs
Joss xx


Wednesday, 14 January 2015

Express yourself

For those of you who don't know, Express yourself is a weekly Meme hosted by Dani and Jackie. Each week we get a question to answer and this weeks question is...

What's a musical or play you've viewed?

When I was younger my older sister treated my mum and I to a joint birthday gift, in which we went to the theatre and saw West Side Story. I'd never been to anything that was a live performance like that before and have not been to anything like it since either. Which is a shame as I really enjoyed it. Living in the middle of nowhere means that you have to go a pretty long way for shows like that. For us I think Plymouth or Exeter would be nearest and there over an hour away. Plus with hubby needing to drive us and musicals not really being his cup of tea. It just wouldn't be fair on him.

I loved seeing West Side Story; however, and it is an experience that will remain with me for the rest of my life. 

How about your? Have you been to see any musicals and plays? Perhaps you have seen lots, if so which was your favourite? Leave a comment and let me know. 

Monday, 12 January 2015

Solheim family update

I woke up this morning, felt the cold, heard the wind and hurried to hear the weather report. Why do we do that? We can look out the window to see the weather and yet so many of us will still rush to see what the professionals have to say about our day/week of weather. It’s like we want to be depressed.

Well this morning that was indeed what I got, rain, wind; cold and possibly even the dreaded snow. 

YUCK!!!!

Essentially everything I hate about winter.

Now don’t get me wrong, I can cope with a lot in the winter. Rain I can handle and the cold I can tolerate, but the wind… I hate the wind.

The wind smashes into my canopy on my scooter and leaves me quivering with fear. 
Will it tip? Will the canopy get ripped off and go flying down the road? Will I be humiliated and unable to do anything about it?

Touch wood, no!!!

My hubby assures me all is well. That my canopy is tougher than it seems. I hope he is right.
Needless to say, my trip to the bus stop this morning will be an anxious one and I am praying that the bus is on time, so that I do not need to be out in the wind too long.

Snow!!!!

I used to love snow, back in my innocence, before I knew the disruption and stress it can cause.
I live at the bottom of a big hill, if it snows while my son is at school I am left panicking about whether or not my scooter will make it to the top and if not,  can I make it up there on my crutches alone.

I used to love winter, but these new found fears that arise during the winter, mean that it has now become something to dread.

It’s interesting how much being disabled changing the way you think and act in life.
I have certainly become a lot more fearful since my disability developed.
There is; however, some news on the disability front.

I had a doctor’s appointment Thursday and my doctor has decided that it is time to try physiotherapy. The idea being that if we can strengthen the muscles around my spine, it might help with the pain. I hope he’s right.

I of course also need to work on shedding some weight, which will hopefully help take a bit of extra strain off my back.

Dieting of course is never easy and it seems as if food jumps to the forefront of my mind whenever I am trying to be good.

That said, if I can beat smoking I can beat this too. Although I think this will definitely be the harder of the two battles.

More news on the disability front, my lovely Ludo has been deemed officially calm enough to continue on with his service dog training.

YAY!!!!

It’s been a long hard slog working on calming the Collie, not helped by the fact that I was mega soft and kinda liked his excited, happy go lucky nature.

Well he is still very happy go lucky and given half the chance will still jump all over you and smoother you in kisses but he has also learned that he needs to sit and wait for a fuss as opposed to throwing himself at people.

Well I say has learned, he has learnt it with my dad, Dan’s mum; however, has yet to be tested and she is his fav person to jump attack. He just loves her to pieces lol.

So time will tell there.

All round though we are seeing a lot more calm, he has been learning to wait for me to step through the door before he goes through, this has been tough for him too, as he likes to always be in front spinning with excitement.

So the continuation of his training means that he is now learning some basic commands, Touch for items I am holding and items I am not, Paw’s up which will help him later to deal with doors and light switches for me and focus, which simply helps him to learn to pay attention to me.

He is doing his training alongside Harley de. Yes those who know Harley are probably thinking, but he is too old to be a service dog and your right, if Harley were a service dog he would be a retired one by now.

Harley isn’t training to be my service dog though, he is doing the training for fun because Harley loves learning new things and it’s also so that he doesn’t feel left out of all the fun, which is essentially how they view the training.

Harley is in fact doing even better than Ludo with the training, but that’s because he is a little less distracted than Ludo lol. Harley has mastered closing cupboard doors and the washing machine door using the paws up command.

Whilst Ludo has mastered paw’s up quite well, he has only been able to apply it, bizarrely enough, to closing the washing machine soap draw which I would have thought was a much more challenging task than the door of the washing machine, but Ludo seems to think not.

Focus, they both have to a tee and I have noticed that they look at my eyes a lot more now since learning the focus trick and they are just generally a lot more intent on me all-round.

Touch, is a tough one for Ludo who has always been very paws on and whose paws like to get involved with everything. The result is that touch gets his paw, instead of a gentle nudge with his nose. I wonder if it is because the command for his paw is tap and perhaps it is a little too similar, so this may be something that needs to be changed, that or a clearer distinction made by re-teaching him tap alongside touch.  

Harley; however, has well and truly mastered touch both in hand and when the object is not being held and even progressed yesterday to picking the items up. Although letting go was only done when he had enjoyed a brief tug of war and nibbled a small chunk of the letter we were using for training. Good thing it was just junk mail.

Who says old dogs can’t learn new tricks?

Organisation

I never thought I would truly master or even enjoy the art of organisation. That said, although I think I am far from a master, I have actually started to find that I am enjoying being organised.

Oh I feel so dirty for saying that. I feel as if someone needs to come and wash out my mouth with soap or something.

I don’t think I will ever be as organised as my mother or mother in law, nor anywhere near as tidy as them either. Although I wish I could sometimes, but I think I am making progress in both areas at present.

Blogging

I tried a week of blogging every day but I have to admit, it just wasn’t for me. I don’t think I could find enough topics to cover like that and I found that when I did have stuff I wanted to blog about I had to make a note for a later date because I already had blog posts scheduled for that day.  

A few other bloggers talked about schedules during the IWSG posts last Wednesday and said how they found that scheduling blogs took the fun out of it too much and that they were just going to post when they felt they actually had something to say. So I am going to follow their lead.

Today there is clearly quite a lot to say, mainly due to the fact that I couldn’t say it last week due to the pre-planned posts.

Workshop

Hubby’s work shop is really coming along now, he has started to build his work benches and has everything planned out. The only problem is going to be keeping him out of there long enough to spend time with Kye Kye and I, because although we can go out there with him, we would also like some none workshop time to spend with him. J

Well that’s everything for now. I don’t want to bore you too much.

How things with you and yours?

Love and hugs
Joss xx

P.S. no pictures today things have been real hectic and it has taken all day to get this post done near enough never mind designing artwork for it as well. 
School run in 15 minutes, how time fly s. 

P.P.S. I am slowly working my way through all my comments and over to your blogs to comment but it has been a busy few days so please be patient I will get to everyone


Friday, 9 January 2015

Reading challenge fun!

I love reading, in fact given the opportunity I would probably do nothing but read all day, sadly life usually has other plans for us but that didn't stop me from wanting to get involved with a reading challenge this year.

So off I went searching the blogger-sphere for anyone who was holding one of these challenges and I found The Reading Challenge 2015 hosted by popsugar.

It had a great list of reading challenges and I was really excited to get involved. I even wrote all the challenges out into my planner. I think I am starting to get the hang of this whole organisation thing.

These are the challenges:


Having found this Reading challenge and having decided to do it, another reading challenge found me. 

This time it was the 2015 Diversity reading challenge that a fellow blogger posted about and tagged me in on facebook. 



I'm really excited by this challenge because I think it's important to read books by people from all walks of life, I'd also love to see more book with characters who are disabled and for it to be the norm for books to have a more diverse range of characters from all different walks of life. 

It's going to be a busy year of reading for me, but I am hopeful I will find some great new authors and books in the process. 

How about you? Are you planning any reading challenges this year? I always take part in the goodread's yearly challenge and set myself the challenge of 80 books this year although I suspect I'll be upping that at some point now.

Well that's all from me for now, I hope you have a lovely day. 

love and hugs 
Joss xx 

Wednesday, 7 January 2015

Quitting

On the 18th of August 2014 my husband and I officially quit smoking. That makes this week our 23 week smoke free and I can honestly say "I never thought those words would ever come out of my mouth."

It was a lot easier than I thought it would be to quit. That's not to say there weren't times when I longed to pick up the cigs and get smoking again, thankfully it was quite a long time before I did pick up another cigarette and as a result a couple of puffs was all I could take before I was stabbing it out. 

Quitting has had several benefits for me and my family, the first being money. We have had one of the best Christmases ever this year, because we quit smoking. We are saving nearly £70 a week just by not smoking. That's around 280 pounds a month and a massive 3360 a year. Yep we were heavy smokers. Looking at those statistics I think it's a good thing we were smoking roll ups and not pre-made cigarettes. 

It's also had a good impact on our health as well. Having suffered from double pneumonia in my younger years my lungs are already not the best. So since quitting smoking I have found I can breath better when I get a cold something that used to be extremely difficult before. 

We did have a lot of nosebleeds when we first quit, but apparently this is quite common and not something to worry about. 

The final big improvement is that there are no longer nicotine stained walls, fingers or surfaces around our home or in our car, nor the smell, which makes cleaning a whole lot easier. 

Now I just need to get rid of the log burner and cleaning will be a breeze, although I am not sure hubby would go for that. 

I don't want to be one of those people that goes on and on at others about quitting because at the end of the day I know that it is something you can only do when you are ready and no amount of pressure from others is likely to change that, but if it is something you want to do and are afraid to do, well give it a try. Maybe you will succeed maybe you won't. Whatever the case don't be tough on yourself. It's better to try and fail then never to try at all. Isn't that what they say. 

Love and hugs 
Joss xx

IWSG post



It's the first Wednesday of the month and that means it's time for another Insecure Writers Support Group.

Due to health I wasn't posting much during 2014 and so it has been a while since I did an IWSG post.

Trying as I currently am, to get into the whole a post a day thing, means I am hoping that I will now be able to do these post every month and have a lot more to talk about.

I understand that today we are meant to be introducing ourselves a bit, so what can I tell you about me.

Well I am a writer, mother and wife. I have one book published called Insane Reno and am currently working on my second Novel. Rehabilitation girls among other things.

I live in a small village in Cornwall, UK, with my wonderful hubby, eight year old son Kye, two dogs, two cats and three bunny rabbits.

I'm disabled, so suffer a lot of pain on a daily basis and have very limited mobility due to a pretty serious back injury, but I am pretty good at managing my pain most of the time now/

I also have an anxiety disorder, which has gotten much worse since my disability, but I am working to build my confidence.

So. as I already mentioned my current work in progress, is Rehabilitation girls and I am really nervous about this one, mainly because the sample chapters that were put up on certain sites were so well received that I am now petrified that I will fail at doing the rest of the book justice.

I almost wish now, as silly as it may seem, that I had never posted up the sampled chapters, because every email I get begging me for more chapters makes my nerves jump that little bit higher.

I am by nature a very anxious person. My doctor recently stuck me on medication because of this and where others thrive under pressure, I freak out and want to run and hide lol.

This was always the problem with me and writing. Insane Reno my first published novel went out before I was ready for it too, but pressure from friends and family made me bite the bullet and do it and even though I got a publisher I still lack faith in myself and the result is that every time I look at Insane Reno, I want to rewrite it.

So my biggest fear I guess is that people will either force me to put RG out before I am ready or worse that I will never get to that point where I feel it is good enough.

Which quite frankly, sucks!

What makes it even worse this time is I have no editor and am relying on Grammerly to get me through that part and although my grammar has improved somewhat, even if I am a little sloppy in my blog posts, I am still petrified of messing up my novel simply because I lack the skills when it comes to grammar.

Which leads to other questions. Should I pay for a professional editor? How will I know I am being charged a fair price? Who's good?

And that's before we even start looking at publishers because my hubby thinks I need to get a better publisher this time, as he is not a fan of my current one.

No one tells you when you start out as a writer just how scary it will be, it all starts off so simple. A happy escape from reality that's for your eye's only.

Well that's all from me for now, I've got this post done in advance so I can spend Wednesday hoping around your posts and seeing your IWSG's. Here's hoping your feeling less insecure than me this month.

If you would like to take past in the IWSG post's then please check out The Insecure Writers Support Group  you can also explore others post from there too.

Love and hugs
Joss xx

Monday, 5 January 2015

Express yourself


It's time for another express yourself. 
Express yourself  is Hosted by Jackie@ bouquet of books and Dani @ Entertaining Interests  this is a weekly meme that allows bloggers to get to know each other better by using prompts to write a post. 

This weeks prompt is....

Do you have a new year's resolution? 

Well yes I do, although how well I will do keeping them remains to be seen lol. 

My new years resolutions are as follows: 

1) lose weight
2) get more organised 
3) finish the first book in the Rehabilitation Girls series ready for publishing. 
4) continue to work on my anxiety disorder and getting out more 
5) Try not to get distracted so much
6) Try and get involved with some more blog hops. 

Do you have any new years resolutions? Let me know. 

love and hugs 
Joss xx